Here are a few things to remember when you make a shocking realization about one of your ancestors.
- The past is the past. Yes, you may share blood but it doesn’t mean you’ve inherited this person’s debts, guilt or offensive traits. Process what you’ve learned, but don’t let one person’s mistakes taint your family name forever
- There could be more to the story. Maybe what your ancestor did was part of a bigger, but unknown picture. Whether what they did was right or wrong, they could’ve had good intentions. In some cases, you just can’t know. Hard to accept, I know.
- Think twice before sharing what you’ve found with your elder family members. Some may already know. Some may have been affected by it and don’t want to re-live those memories. Some just don’t want to know. Use your best judgment and realize it may be a family secret that’s better left as just that.
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